My parents didn't do that. They were sometimes concerned about us (me in social issues, my sister in school) but there wasn't pressure to perform and my potential was never an issue for discussion. Natural consequences and tools for finding effective coping mechanisms were the direction my parents headed in. Success was relative and independence was important.
I think my parents goals as parents was to raise independent, confident, well rounded, free thinking, responsible children who could function well as adults and who felt loved and secure. I'm guessing that is what they were doing based on what they did.
My parents did pretty damn well at the parenting thing I think.
My parents' expectations of me were in many ways reflections of their expectations of themselves, I think. Overall, it's worked out, but there were a few rough bits.
The main downside has been that I reflexively tense up when I don't live up to my expectations of myself. I'm working on getting rid of that reflex, but it's a long process.
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ironphoenix) wrote2007-01-25 04:31 pm
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I think my parents goals as parents was to raise independent, confident, well rounded, free thinking, responsible children who could function well as adults and who felt loved and secure. I'm guessing that is what they were doing based on what they did.
My parents did pretty damn well at the parenting thing I think.
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The main downside has been that I reflexively tense up when I don't live up to my expectations of myself. I'm working on getting rid of that reflex, but it's a long process.